{Philippians 2:3}

 Overcoming Selfishness With Honor

Some parents are frustrated because their children are so self-focused that they can't seem to grasp the concept of honoring others. How can you help children think about other people instead of always thinking about themselves?

One helpful way is to teach kids to recognize emotions in others and then know how to respond accordingly. One dad wanted to work on honor with his seven-year-old daughter, Diane, who was self-centered, always talking and thinking about herself. He used a journal and, in the evening, asked Diane to identify examples of a friend or family member who was sad, mad, or glad that day. Then he asked the question, "How might you respond to that person in a helpful way?"

They continued this exercise every evening for two weeks. After awhile it helped Diane get outside of herself, look at the needs and feelings of others, and then talk about ways to respond with honor. When her brother is mad, it might be best to leave him alone or to just ask a helpful question. With her friend who is sad, she could offer to help and then listen empathetically. When Mom is glad, Diane could enter into that gladness by listening to the story and enjoying the situation too.

The Bible says in Philippians 2:3, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility, consider others better than yourselves." That's good advice for all of us. Seeing and responding to emotions in others is a great way to start.

This parenting tip comes from the book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

{Compliance versus Obdience}

 Compliance versus Obedience

Some parents say, "I can usually get my children to do what I say eventually." Parents sometimes think that obedience is the same as compliance. When you say to your son, "Please leave the computer and help me bring the groceries in from the car," and he says, "As soon as I get to the next level," that's not obedience.

Now, we don't believe that a child must instantly obey every time. As parents, we want to consider our child's agenda and needs too as we direct the course of family events. However, some children never adjust their schedules to a parent's. They always have to have it their way, in their time, and on their terms.

Parents who allow poor responsiveness may believe that they’re loving their children when in fact they’re encouraging selfishness. Cooperation is a two-way street. As a parent you know how to cooperate and sacrifice for your child. Can your child do the same?

The child who can't give up her agenda is selfish and hasn't yet learned what real cooperation is all about. Demandingness always requires me first. The child who is demanding about reaching the next level in a computer game before obeying Mom or Dad, may not be ready for such games. Cooperation means that sometimes we drop what we're doing to help someone else.

If your child has a problem in this area, you might want to focus more on obedience. It's amazing how many benefits are hidden within obedience that will help your children develop the character necessary both now and in the future.

This parenting tip comes from the book Home Improvement, the Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

{2013}

2013 Checklist

 

Invite a friend to serve with you in the nursery!

                      Most often people just simply need to be asked to be apart.  This year please be our “eyes” to spot people that might like to serve with us! Simply bring them on our scheduled time.

 

       Jot down our fellowships this year and join us as often as you can!

                      It is our desire to reach out! We want to spend

 time with your kiddos, and we want to spend time with you too!

Blizzard beach volleyball is our 1st scheduled event!

 

Pray for safety for our children.

                      Pray that with the lords help we can look after all our

little ones and keep each one safe and secure.

 

Pray about a commitment.

                                       We have service opportunities in both ministries, every Sunday & Wednesday. . . Every week, of every month of each year. 

These little ones feel less stress when they see a familiar face. 

 We desire for them to have same leader each week. 

 

 

 

 

 

{Happy New Year!}

GET READY FOR THE

ADVENTURE!

“For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  -Jeremiah 29:11

It’s a new year, and I have a great adventure planned for you.  Come to Me with you a heart that is willing to be changed.  Don’t make the same mistakes you made last year.  This year, try doing this My way.

I know that trying something new can be frightening.  But I also know you, and I understand you completely.  You can trust Me to wrap you up in My Love –a love that never ends.

Whether you are at home or at school, talking with your friends or doing homework, keep Me in your thoughts.  Let Me guide you.  I will take you on a journey that will change who you are and how you see the world and the people around you.  Yes, I have great plans for you, and I will be with you every step of they way! 

Jesus Calling by Sarah Young